Men and women both carry shame. Men have carried repressed shame for their manhood because of what man has done to the feminine including the earth. Collectively they have not carried out their role as the protectors of the feminine safety, wisdom and spirit, but as I mentioned before, this is not due to an instinctual flaw in the male species, it is due to the manipulation of the human race. Manhood and masculinity is a gift, and meant to serve and protect the feminine, but they are not able to do this when shame is present, for they will become either guarded and defensive due to this subconscious guilt and insecurity, or the opposite – overly passive and sensitive due to rejecting their masculinity.
As men carry suppressed shame around being a man, women carry shame simply for being women due to the conditioning that they are less worthy and that our divine sexuality is a sin. Women carry collective shame for their bodies, beauty (or not being ‘beautiful enough’- either way it’s a double edged sword), emotions and ability to access the multidimensional realms. We have carried shame specifically around the menstrual cycle and for the messiness of sex and birth, when in fact all of these things, are directly related to our feminine power, wisdom, and gifts as women. When we alchemize shame into reverence for these inherent gifts, we are then able to access the full power of them… which we all desperately need at this time.
Shame is a suppressive force that serves no positive purpose. It also is not ours, and is simply an internalizing of collective conditioning or inter-relational shaming. (Whenever I clear shame with people, we first have to get rid of other people’s energy and beliefs, many times this clears it all together). Overall there is much shame associated with our genders. Shame for our light. Shame for being big. Smart. Sexual. Feminine or masculine. And for being different than the mainstream. These are the qualities that, in reality, will set us free.
Whether or not we -consciously- subscribe to religious dogma or mainstream fear-based conditioning, we are still collectively purging the effects of thousands of years of shaming. It’s passed down from our ancestors and cellular memories of past lives, in addition to modern familial, religious and social conditioning.
More on mshame…ease shame and access our innate super powers as men and women? The first step is to look at it. Shame is a deep rejection of self that hides in the deepest closets of our consciousness. We must bring it out into the light to dissolve it, and to do the work on the subconscious levels to be aligned with embodying our truth and power. We must ‘re-parent’ ourselves and reassure our ‘younger selves’ that they are worthy and have nothing to be ashamed of… even if they were made to fee that way. We must gather with those doing the work to liberate it, and to together, collectively rewrite our social standards.
For women, do you apologize a lot? Do you dumb down your voice? Do you hide your beauty or suppress your sensuality? Do you not choose your pleasure or ask for what you want? Do you ignore or hide your intuition, psychic gifts or emotions? Do you try to hide your menstruation? Are you ashamed of your body, body functions, or body parts?
Sadly these have become the norm, and this is -not- normal. It contributes to a suppressed humanity incapable of freeing ourselves from the shackles of the patriarchy. It is time to gather with our communities and mentors and embrace those around us that have liberated these parts of ourselves. We do need one another, as we are innately driven by social acceptance (subconscious survival mechanism as well as an innate need to bond) and will only feel safe to embody these gifts when we feel we are surrounded by safe and resonant relationships and group containers. We are amazing beautiful beings with so, much much to share with the world, and the world needs us to come out of the closet and unabashedly be our bright, bold, beautiful and pleasure-filled selves.
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