There is a lot going on in the world! Feeling angry? Me too.
I’m a feeler. feel a lot. I feel a lot about my life, and the world. I have had to ask myself time and again… What do I do with this anger?
Am I supposed to keep smiling? Cook dinner? Continue business as usual? But the anger feels so big! And at times I don’t feel it at all, but I know it’s there, just waiting to be expressed in a healthy way.
Today, I write about positively channeling anger, in hopes that other women will rage and write with me.
When we are children, we cry when we are sad and throw a tantrum when we are mad, but soon enough we learn that anger is not the most well-received emotion.
Even though anger is a healthy emotion, if it is not channelled correctly it can be used in a destructive way rather than a therapeutic one, and it is also trigger for people that can cause harmful consequences. Or, on the other end of the spectrum, we can stuff it so deep that it hides in one of our organs or chakras eventually creating blocks that will effect our health.
Most of us have suppressed anger due to it’s cultural taboos that lead us to believe that if we express our anger we will be seen as crazy, a bitch, unreasonable, or worse. Instead of releasing it in healthy ways, many times we bury it as to not ruffle any feathers. Or we go the opposite direction and project it onto others by blaming, shaming, yelling, etc.
Some fears around anger are valid, as we can scare others with our anger, and we can even lose jobs, people or opportunities if we speak or act too aggressively.
Sometimes we are afraid that the anger is so big… that if we allow ourselves to feel it maybe something horrible will happen. It feels like we might explode! Or implode. Or be carried off to the looney bin. Or lose people we love, if we really let it loose.
The problem is… buried anger does not serve us, our bodies, or in making a change around what we feel angry about. It creates disharmony and dis-ease in the body, and always ends up coming out in sideways anyway. (fights with your partner, random triggers, bad moods, self loathing, etc.)
There is a lot to be angry about in the world, and most of us had some pretty intense stuff to be angry about in our past. Most of our inner warrioresses have had to take a back seats to ensuring our social acceptance, and survival. We have had to choose our education, our jobs, and taking care of our families.
But a part of us still longs for resolution for things that happened in our past, and from those who could not give us the remorse or justice we crave. It longs for justice in the world.
In this day and age, the opposition is not in front of us. We are not battling eye to eye with swords or bow and arrows. Today’s destructive and power-hungry dominators are in suits in high and well guarded places backed by CIA, FBI, and military. The Earth is being destroyed, our food air water and medicine is poisoned, wars rage, the media is manipulated, and inside we are pissed about it. And instead of being able to do what our primal, instinctual selves want do, we have to deal with this anger on our own.
When we reclaim our suppressed anger, and channel it in a healthy way, we reclaim powerful pieces of ourselves that are capable of amazing things, and actually creating the change that our souls yearn to see.
Change happens when we feel. When we admit something isn’t right, and we have the courage to do something about it. It doesn’t happen when we silence ourselves, shut our mouths, hearts and wombs down to the soul-fire that is longing to blaze again.
The question I have asked myself is… when will anger be welcome at the table? When will we be able to express it passionately and freely and have it be a well-received catalyst for change? The conclusion I have come to… is when we are able to collectively make peace with it ourselves. This is a start.
Here are some healthy ways to accept, express and direct your anger.
When we stop resisting our feelings, we can love them back into wholeness. We give space to the part of us that felt hurt, betrayed, violated, or taken advantage of. We all know, that when we feel recieved, our trigger dissipates. Receive, love, and accept your anger. Give it value and validation. You had and have every right to feel that way. The breakdown leads to the breakthrough, so go for it.
To get fired up, ask yourself… What are you angry at?! Why are you angry!? How were you or someone else wronged, hurt, betrayed, or violated? What do you want to say or do about it?!
Find a safe and private place growl, hiss, spit, or scream. Try the yogic breathe of fire.
Where? Wherever you feel most safe and private. In the car, into a pillow, in the woods, at the top of a mountain, under water, or in your room. Let it out for all of us.
Release the stuck energy through moving your body. Run, punch a punching bag, a pillow, or dance vigorously or just spaz out for a few minutes! This releases the energetic density from your body. It’s pretty fun!
4. Ask someone to hold space
Talk to a friend, shaman or healer that can hold a strong and loving container. Say that you just need a space to vent without judgement, and perhaps some support in releasing. You can also schedule a healing ceremony with a trusted practitioner or community.
Speak up, create, and be of service to the cause you are angry about. Utilize your passion and talents to create change. Write, paint, speak, start a business, movement or a foundation.
Today, I choose my rage. I choose to wield my fury with a pen. I choose to use my blood as the ink of inspiration for finding better way. I let the rage burn through me, and destroy what no longer serves. It turns to ash, making room for the new. It informs me of what I value and find important, and what my purpose is in creating change. This is where the solutions lie.
And our purpose.
They are one.
Let it rip, girl. We are in this together.